Wednesday, June 16, 2021

सँजोऊ क्या

 सँजोऊ क्या

बचपन से सीखा संजोना है, कुछ... 

कभी कपडे, कभी खिलोने, कभी पैसे और  

कभी चीजें जो नहीं थीं घर में.

 

नहीं सोचा था तो ये कि सँजोऊ 

वो आवाजे वो चेहरे जिनमे चमक थी 

जो जवां थी, बे मकसद थीं 

 बस थीं... असली

 

जिनमे प्यार और  दर्द का था एक शुद्ध एहसास 

नहीं था तो बस कोई मतलब, नीति या स्वार्थ 

 

वो तुजुर्बे और भावों के दरिये, जो बने थे कितने ही सालों में 

मगर लगे हमें बेमानी और पुराने, इस "नये दौर के ज़माने" में

 

नहीं था वक़्त हमारे पास, उन्हें संजोने का 

कोई कारण भी नहीं था हमारे पास, उन्हें संजोने का 

हम "मॉडर्न" हो रहे थे 

और "तैयार" थे बनाने और संजोने, हमारे "अपने तुजुर्बे"!

 

आज जब खोली अपनी पोटली तो, 

तो सुब कुछ पाया, सब जो संजोया था,

मगर लगी ये खाली, और हैं हम परेशां 

क्योंकि हमे तो अपनी समझ पे भरोसा था 

 

संजोया वो सब जो बिकता है सड़क पर 

ना संजोया जो प्यार और एहसास

बस यही एक धोखा था... 

 

-तनु मुटरेजा (जून १६' २०२१)


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Friday, February 12, 2021

Today's creation

खिलाफ तो जमाना है.
जीते तो हम मुट्ठी भर के लिए हैं !

-तनु मुटरेजा 
२/१२ /२०२१ 

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Sunday, March 11, 2018

When the anecdotes and the data disagree, the anecdotes are always right

“When the anecdotes and the data disagree, the anecdotes are always right”

Love the art of articulation by JeffB. 

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Wednesday, January 31, 2018

If you want to be valued for your skills, be a plumber

If you want to be valued for your skills, be a plumber!

A female coworker thought she was talented, and deserved a better role. Few years ago, she brought this story in a mentoring session seeking advice on how she could ask for a different, and potentially better role. It was then, I heard one of the male mentors say this.

I was puzzled and disturbed with his advice. I reached out to him afterwards, and asked if he would give the same advice to a male coworker. He gave me the universal answer "it depends". I guess, it made it clear that my respect for this man was now a thing of past. 

Today,  coincidentally I shared my own version with my niece, and this is how it went "If you want to be valued for your skills, get skilled at being kind to yourself, and ignoring men who suggest you to be a plumber!"

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Thursday, November 17, 2016

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Friday, January 11, 2013

What a bogus article to mislead Indian women

Yesterday someone forwarded me this article from Chetan Bhagat
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-07-29/all-that-matters/32923106_1_indian-men-new-woman-life-partners.

I felt so disappointed in this author (who I admired at some point) that I logged-in to my blog today.

I'm amazed how people watch same movie (same stars, same acting, same story, same expressions) and take such a different message.

Cocktail, as much as I liked this movie (awesome Jugni track) it made me think hard (funny, who would think about a Bollywood movie afterwards :-)).  Unlike any other Hindi movie in past few years, this one made me think how fast India is progressing. How much has changed in the way our youth (till now I thought youth meant me :-)) is thinking and expressing. What they are discussing & expressing now, is something we could not even think just few years back.

Then, I hit this ridiculous article.

In any love triangle, one person will pick one out of other two. Does that convey anything about the society as a whole? What about JTAJ - what message does that movie convey about Indian society? Just the opposite? [bet, CB won't talk about that movie] Come on CB! grow-up and focus on some good writing. Don't just look for "topics" to give you emotional advantage over your writing issues!

Comparison of Marissa Mayer with women in India - he must be kidding! Marissa is certainly not cooking phulka and she is certainly doing everything valued in a women in her society. I mean everything to stay attractive.

And which man wouldn't be happy if he gets a salary of COO and "phulka" made by another "woman" (who says that woman needs to be wife :-)) while he just sit back look for social events capable of providing him emotional exploitation opportunities from fellow Indians. I would see him talk if his wife is a "normal" professional with salary insufficient to hire a cook and where this guy has to make phulka's himself. Who would he pick?

More frustrating is to see how India women group wake up to such articles and immediately start talking about all the rights and freedom they suddenly need in this world. It's a movie!! A love triangle! A story repeated million times in Bollywood! As we read his article, someone is coming up with another movie with guy picking up non-phulka making girl this time. Another moment for other side of the tribe to wake up to their rights!

One thing agreed, the guy has more talent in finding bits & pieces that will exploit people's emotions than writing.

 

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Monday, March 21, 2011

Intresting stuff, posted by someone at LinkedIn

EARNINGS: Never depend on a single income. Make investments to create a second source.

SPENDINGS: If you buy things that you don't need, soon you will have to sell things that you need.

SAVINGS: Don't save what is left after spendings but spend what is left after savings.

:-) :-)

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Monday, May 31, 2010

You belong to me???



Every breath you take and every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take, I'll be watching you
Every single day and every word you say
Every game you play
Every night you stay, I'll be watching you
Oh can't you see you belong to me?
How my poor heart aches with every step you take
Every move you make and every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake, I'll be watching you

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Sunday, April 18, 2010

All Time Favorites Continues...

Things Will Never Be The Same Again
by Melanie C



I thought that we would just be friends
Things will never be the same again
It's just the beginning it's not the end
Things will never be the same again
It's not a secret anymore
Now we've opened up the door
Starting tonight and from now on
We'll never, never be the same again
Never be the same again

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All time favourites series continues...

Take me away a secret place!
Pocketful of Sushine by Natasha Bedingfield




I got a pocket, got a pocket full of sunshine
I've got a love and I know that it's all mine
oh.oh,oh
Do what you want, but you're never gonna break me,
sticks and stones are never gonna shake me
oh,oh,oh
Take me away... A secret place... A sweet escape... Take me away...
Take me away to better days... Take me away... A hiding place... 

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Tuesday, February 23, 2010

This love is difficult, but it’s real.

"Love Story" from Fearless by Taylor Swift - song of the day



Romeo take me somewhere we can be alone
I'll be waiting all there is left to do is run
You will be prince & I'll be princess
It's love story baby
just say... yes...

My song of the day...

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Monday, February 15, 2010

Somewhere over the rainbow... Blue birds fly!

Some where over the rainbow - by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole




Another favourite for the day...

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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Life is not tried, if you are standing outside the fire...

Standing outside the fire by Garth Brooks


We call them cool
Those hearts that have no scars to show
The ones that never do let go
And risk the tables being turned

We call them fools
Who have to dance within the flame
Who chance the sorrow and the shame
That always comes with getting burned

But you've got to be tough when consumed by desire
'Cause it's not enough just to stand outside the fire

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Thursday, January 07, 2010

Men are from Mars and Women are from *$#@:%$#@

whoever says Venus, should be the God of behavioral science. To me the planet where women are from, is yet to be discovered and the signs & symptoms are yet to be understood. To me woman is the universal magic which is everywhere and yet more complex than complex numbers, more abstract than abstract algebra and more cryptic than any cryptographic algo. Every time someone asks what’s the latest non-work related challenge you are working on, I have to think of an answerable answer but natural instinct promptly pass me name of some woman :-). Not to say I love challenges and hence waste some time like this. Lots of fun – for sure :-)

PS: This blog is inspired from an event that happened yesterday.

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Saturday, January 02, 2010

Amir proves again why he isn't worth the "King Khan" title

As much as liked the movie called 3 idiots, once again I didn't like Amir Khan's behaviour. Vidhu Vinod Chopra is no public celebrity so it was no surprise to see him behaving badly at the media person but Amir is expected to maintain his dignity as a celebrity, as an actor and as a perfectionist instead of saving VVC.

I believe anyone who has read Chetan Bhagat's FPS, will accept that 3 idiots is "highly" influenced by FPS. Main story line, characters, places of shooting (simple example of drinking at roof top), family background of all characters in the movie is just the same as in FPS but Amir says "3 idiots is an original storyline" -funny. I still remember the news headline few months back where news channel introduced 3 idiots as a movie being made baesd on FPS - wonder why someone can't show those news clips to VVC / Amir.

No wonder this is a publicity stunt by Amir & VVC, may be including Chetan Bhagat himself to promote his book but sounds pretty cheap isn't it.

Anyways whatever it is, as a "mango person" (aka common person aka aam janta) it makes me believe more strongly that SRK is a better "human" than Amir and Amir really has lots of genuine reasons to avoid any public appearances - he really just can't handle tough questions during public speaking...

King Khan remains the King Khan!!

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Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Love

LOVE - heard it, loved it, sung it, danced it, used it, misused it, refused it, ruined it, & what not but only at extreme rare occasions I *realized* it.
Last month while travelling to phx we had an elderly American couple sitting right behind us. Both seemed to be in 80+, quite likely in 90s too. The lady seemed little bit more in need of help physically but both couldn't sit without assistance. My attention moved to them when a nice air-hostess tried to help them beyond normal like in ensuring they sit comfortably, in checking-in their hand luggage and then trying to make as much space for them as possible. Soon after taking my seat I slept and later when I woke up, like any other Indian I didn't hesitate in overhearing conversation this couple was having. Anyhow, here is what I heard for the first & just fell for it:

Lady: I'm travelling after very long. I wonder if I'll still get scared while landing.
Man: Don't worry. When I'm with you, you don't need to worry.

Imagine an elderly man who need assistance himself say this? I couldn't stop overhearing thereafter - probably don't regret it also. Even after telling myself, this isn't the right thing to do, I just could not focus on anything else. Thereafter some conversation just touched me:

Lady: I know. I sure know. I'm not worried.
Man (took her hand in his hands): I love you.
Lady: I love you too.
Lady: Do you think XXX (someone they were going to visit most probably) will come to receive us?
Man: He (XXX) called me & most likely will come but he didn't say anything. He has young kids so if he does not, we will still have a fun trip to Arizona. You & Me will enjoy the beauty of the desert.
Lady: yes, I don't need anything when I'm with you. Let's rock in Arizona. Just You and Me!!

As an afterthought, it sounds pretty much like movies but this sure wasn't made-up. It was coming from heart. While getting down of the plane, I saw them again and prayed that God bring loads of more love in their life!!!

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2009 - another year passes by

2009 for me isn't just another year passes by. It's an year that left some deep marks. It touched my intellect more than ever. I still do not know how to describe this feeling but only after losing *so* much I realized what all I possessed for years without knowing and only after touching the height of sorrow I was filled with supreme empathy. Is this is the only way we learn lessons of life? May be yes. And today looking back, only two words stayed in mind for the most this year - "Thanks & Sorry".

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Monday, August 11, 2008

अग्नि पथ! अग्नि पथ! अग्नि पथ!

अग्नि पथ! अग्नि पथ! अग्नि पथ!

वृक्ष हों भले खड़े,

हो घने, हो बड़े,

एक पत्र-छॉंह भी मॉंग मत, मॉंग मत, मॉंग मत!

अग्नि पथ! अग्नि पथ! अग्नि पथ!

तू न थकेगा कभी!

तू न थमेगा कभी!

तू न मुड़ेगा कभी!-कर शपथ! कर शपथ! कर शपथ!

ये महान दृश्य है,

चल रहा मनुष्य है,

अश्रु, श्वेद, रक्त सेलथ पथ, लथ पथ, लथ पथ

अगनीपथ! अगनीपथ! अगनीपथ!

--हरिवंश राय बच्चन

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Sunday, April 20, 2008

Found after long

Teri Hai Zameen Tera Aasman - from The Burning Train(1980), a hindi movie.

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Tuesday, June 12, 2007

There's no indispensable man.

There Is No Indispensable Man
"Saxon N. White Kessinger ©1959"

Nice forward from a collegue...

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Sunday, December 31, 2006

2006: An Year of Surprizes!

2006, an year for which first word that comes to me today is "Surprise". The best thing I realize atm is I was no vulnerable to any, may it be a pleasant and an un-pleasant one. I could keep my cool :-) (I know my near ones won't believe it but that's what it is :-))

* First and foremost, the way Americans "live" was a pleasant surprise. Live for today, live for yourself and live it all.
* How much more efficient one can be at work while working without indian politics, at least in an IT company.
* Sun & winter could be so different in various geo’s. I really had no idea about it. In my native place I'm no lesser than an Eskimo but in other parts of the world I was roaming at 10Deg Cel as in Delhi summer :-)
* Met with an intelligent lady at work. "Intelligent Lady", isn't that surprising?? Yes, she still amazes me with her witty bits every day. When I saw her outside work I was even more surprised. Amazing warmth & kiddies’ in her was great to feel.
* Realized common-sense is so significantly missing in so called "Indian NASA Scientists" who work in software companies like Microsoft and Sun Microsystems :-). Read somewhere “unfortunately common-sense escapes some of us” and found it so true…
* Met some biggie viggie who need no recognition, at least this is what I thought and they all cry for recognition??? Surprising??
* Realized how easy it is to swallow but how tough it is to digest. Most of the people swallow other human being due to some attraction but chocking thereafter kills forever.
* My sis recently gave me a surprise 2-3 months back and I thought that was all for the year but no, she ended the year with yet another - most pleasant surprise.
* Trip to Medak was another of its kind where I saw some folks taking out hen's eye with normal knife right at the church lawn.
* English friend – his hair colours & mom-in-law’s cakes, Japanese friend – with American sister, Indian (American) cousin’s – none married to Indian spouse, driving & horse riding at beaches were all so exciting surprises…
* Terms & phrases that I coined surprized me every single time.
* Greatest surprize was my friend's totally disturbed state when she was nearing her wedding and expected (it's common in India for girl to adopt part of husband's name in her's) change in her lastname was taking sleep away from her nights:-(

What does not surprise me is the fact that real estate prizes touching the sky in Hyderabad while the place is still a village and is at the verge of remaining the same :-)

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Saturday, November 11, 2006

"It is better to deserve honors and not have them than to have them and not deserve them."

-Mark Twain

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Friday, October 20, 2006

Another Nice Read...

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.

FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.

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Monday, October 09, 2006

Bahama Style IT Support Center



Someone forwarded this picture to me which he took while in Bahamas. Really cool to see how much MSFT has become part of the common living.

One thing I like about this company, at least till BillG is at MSFT, there is something which revives your passion every day. It demands so much from you but end of the day you are surpsrised to know how many different dimensions your learning has evolved into. How would one feel if he sees an ad like this (http://soapbox.msn.com/video.aspx?vid=68f41600-2f05-40b0-8ba1-ebbff0420dcc) at the start of the day...

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Tuesday, August 29, 2006

Why it so happens...

Desert heart with sand of emotions,
Dries hard through out the day
Any bit adds to heat
And then a breeze revives the hopes
Some of the sand is carried along...

Thinking air a loyal pal
To carry it along till it can
Hopes grow enjoying the glow
Heart is cool till there is a flow.

But things change, directions change
Somewhere air changes it's flow
Slows down, and dumps it away
Not to look back ever...

Hope still hopes
Understands then, the harder lessons
It was air just to flow
Nothing for it to make you glow

Sand was just for few steps
Though made air to feel so powerful
Made it to feel ruling emotions
Gave it killer instinct of destructions.

Now that it's detached and left,
None ever had a promise to be kept
Nothing is there for you dear,
No shoulder no hand I swear
Don't just follow anything for fate
It can only drag you miles
For years 'n' years 'n' years...

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Touched 1000...

Today, my blog touched 1000 users since I started measuring that.

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Saturday, July 15, 2006

Those who dare never loose...

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Friday, July 14, 2006

Vital FEW and Trivial MANY...

The 80/20 rule of Pareto's holds so well in every small thing everyday...

20% of my team causes me 80% trouble :-)
20% of the food causes 80% of my calories.
20% of my trips cause 80% of my pleasure.
20% of my time makes my day worth.

...

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Friday, May 26, 2006

When Raja Started Writing...

This is what he writes... I never knew he had so much talent, may be someone made him a SHAYAR :-). All I knew him this far was a highly pampered careless kid:-) Ooppsss... he is not a kid anymore...

Like a dew drop, on the tiny grass leaf
Like a ray of light, on the coral reaf

Like a thin dark line, on a pure white stone
Like a line of trees, on a path unknown

Like a bunch of lotus, in the shallow green pound
Like a million stars, in the sky unbound

All this makes me think of you
Then I find, its an imaginary view

My dreams are empty, reality bite
There is no hope, there is no light.

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Play By The Proven Rules.

BE PERSISTENT AND WORK HARD

Successful people play by a proven set of rules — principles that keep them on track whether they’re working on long- or short-term goals. Those principles govern the way they think, act and relate to others, says Richard Templar in his new book, “The Rules of Life.”

Here are a few golden rules from Templar and others:
Be the best at everything you do. “Failing (on your way to the top) is fine. Aiming for second best (and succeeding) isn’t,” Templar said.
Be flexible. The art of perseverance turns on flexibility. You’re more able to second-guess failure and come up with several ways to reach goals.
“Once you think you have all the answers, you might as well call it quits,” Templar said. “To get the most out of life, keep your options open. Be ready to roll as the storm breaks — and it always breaks when you least expect it.”
Flexible thinking “is a bit like mental marital arts — being ready to duck and weave, dodge and flow.”
To see how flexible your thinking is, answer a couple of questions, he advises. “Are the books by your bed the same sorts of books you’ve always read? Have you found yourself saying anything like, ‘I don’t know any people like that?’ If so, perhaps it’s time to broaden your mind and clear out the cobwebs.”

Handle criticism well.
A test of a leader’s strength is how he reacts when criticized, notes leadership coach James Neal Jr., author of “Job Survival Strategies.”
When being criticized or corrected, “state your position, admit errors in judgment and above all be honest and maintain emotional control.”

Ask questions.
A mentor once told Templar: “The better you understand the beliefs, actions, desires and wants of others, the more likely you are to make the right response, alter your thinking,” build relationships and succeed.
Successful people are usually the ones asking questions “while others are reacting, panicking, misinterpreting, assuming (and) losing control,” Templar noted.

Do the grunt work.
If big money and corner offices are the visible parts of success, the invisible part is the heavy lifting, says management coach Jeffrey Fox in “How to Become CEO.”
“It’s the homework, the early mornings, the weekend travel away from home, the checking and rechecking, the trial and error, and the endless hours of inch-by-inch progress that the glamour masks,” he said. “If you begrudge the grunt work, you’ll not get the glory.”

Never underestimate an opponent.
Second-guess his strategy and have a plan in place to counter it. If you overestimate him, you’ll be pleasantly surprised, Fox says.

Practice WACADAD.
It stands for “Words Are Cheap and Deeds Are Dear.” Notice where the problems lie, and work on solutions.
“Test them. Write up your proposals, and get proper distribution of your ideas,” Fox said. “Don’t talk about how good you are. Prove it with action, over and over.”

Be a credit maker, not a credit taker.
Give your people 100% of the credit for their work. They’ll strive harder, Fox says, and you’ll look good as a result. Cord Cooper

From Investor’s Business Daily

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Wednesday, April 26, 2006

"It's not your fingerprints that will be all over our return to prominence, it'll be your footprints right underneath it."

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Jonathan Schwartz
Position: CEO, Sun Microsystems
Age: 40
Residence: San Francisco
Home town: Bethesda, Md.
Education: Degrees in economics and mathematics from Wesleyan University

Work history: Consultant for McKinsey & Co. in New York. CEO of Lighthouse Design Ltd., which Sun bought in 1996. Most recently Sun's president and chief operating officer.

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Monday, April 03, 2006

The Red Emperor...


There was no single moment of doubting a name after seeing it. Bright & pride!

Glittering enough to rule the show. Amazingly in contrast match with its companion flowers...

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Pt. Ravi Shankar Among Bob Dylan and Jimi Hendrix et al

Small things like this make an Indian proud again...

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Saturday, March 25, 2006

How hard it could be to remain simple...

Realized yet another funny lesson today...

HOW HARD IT IS TO REMAIN SIMPLE...

I belong to a country where people are corrupt in fundamental thoughts. It's so very difficult to retain pure views in my native. If you mean what you say, you are not the same bird!!

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Sunday, March 12, 2006

Mt. St. Helens: Live story while it was erupting

Mt. St. Helens Volcano: An Eyewitness Account by John H Lienhard

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